Book 📖04 there way you see it 

Mindra the way you see it 

Change the question, Discover the difference view 

Welcome 

Two people can stand in the same place , hear the same words, walk away with completely different ideas. " Why" because we don't experience the world only through our eyes, we also experience it through our memories , expectations , beliefs, emotions and questions. That means something interesting is happening all the time. The way you see something can affect what you believe it means.

This book isn't here to tell you that what to think.

It here to help you become better at thinking about how you think. Ok let begin.

Chapter 1 same picture, different story

Imagine two people looking through the same window. One sees dark cloud and thinks maybe we'll finally get some rain, the sky didn't change, the interpretation did. We sometimes forget that our first interpretation isn't necessarily the truth. When something happens, pause before deciding what it means. Ask what else could it means ? That question can open doors to a completely different way of seeing things 

Mindra pause 

Notice ; what happened ?

Question...what are two possible explanation 

Choose...which explanation has the strongest evidence?

Chapter 2 Your Brain fills in blanks

You don't always have all the information. Your mind often tries to complete the missing pieces. Someone doesn't reply to your message. You might think they angry , but perhaps they busy, perhabr their phones are off. Perhaps they simply haven't seen the message, your first thought can feel like a fact even when it only a guess, that why it helps to separate. What I know from what I assume. That small different can prevent many misunderstanding 

Mindra pause 

What do I actually know 

What am I assuming 

What informatin am I missing 

Chapter 3 questions are powerful 

A good question can change a conversation, it can uncover an idea, it can reveal a mistake, it can lead you somewhere unexpected, instead of always asking " is this true " try asking "how do we know? Instead of " who is right " try "what evidence do we have instead of "why would they do that " and try what might I not understand about their situation ?" . Curiousity doesn't mean belive every thing. It means being willing to investigate.

Mindra pause 

What am I curious about?

What would help me understand it better ?

Find one reliable piece of information.

Chapter 4 Your first Thought isn't always your best thought. 

Your first reaction can be fast, your second thought can be more careful. Imagine someone gives you criticism , your first thought might be "they don't respect me " before reacting pause , could they be trying to help ? , could they have explained themselves badly ? Could there be something useful for what they said ? You don't have to accept every criticism. But you also don't have to reject it immediately. Give your thought a little room, sometimes the best response comes after the first reaction has passed. 

Mindra reset 

What was my first reaction 

What could I think about differently 

Respond after you've conserded the situation. 

Chapter 5 borrow someone else's room 

You don't have to agree with someone to understand them. Try looking at a situation from their side. What do they know ? What might be worried about? What experiences could have shaped their opinions? That doesn't mean their view is automatically  correct.it means you willing to understand before judging. The world becomes more interesting when you realize that everyone carries a different collection of experience. 

Mindra pause 

What my view ?

What might another person see that I don't? 

Listen before deciding 

Chapter 6 information needs filter 

Not everything you hear deserves your trust, a confidence voice can still be wrong, a popular post can still   contains falls information. A person with many followers can still misunderstand something. Before believing an important claim, ask!. Who said it ? How do they know ? Can the information be checked ? Do the trustworthy sources agree?

Thinking carefully doesn't mean becoming suspicious of everything, it means learning to separate information from evidence 

Mindra pause 

What claim am I hearing ?

What support it?

Chack before passing it on?

Chapter 7 change your mind 

Changing your mind can feel uncomfortable, sometimes people think it mean they lost " it doesn't" Imagine you believe something for years. Then you discover strong evidence that shows you were mistaken. You now have two choices,protect the old belief or follow the better information. Being willing to update your thinking is a strength. You don't have to be embarrassed about learning something. 

You can simply say " didn't know that before and continue 

Mindra pause 

What do I strongly believe ?

What evidence could change my mind 

Stay opened to learn 

Chapter 8 Don't let one moment become the whole story 

One bad experience can make us create a much bigger story, you fail one test and think 🤔" I'm terrible at this"  one person disappoint you and think " Nothing ever works for me " be careful with words like.. ;always, never, everyone, nothing 

One event Is usually only one piece of a much bigger story, look at the evidence before writing the ending 

Mindra pause 

Am I making the situation bigger than the evidence 

What examples don't fit my conclusion 

Describe the situation accurately.

Chapter 9 Slow thinking can save you 

Some decisions needs speed, others deserve time, if you're angry, excited,pressured, or frightened, your emotions can influence your choices. Sometimes the smartest move is simply, 

Wait 

Take a breath get more information, talk to someone you trust, come back to the decision later. A few minutes of careful thinking can be more valuable than a quick unswer you later regret.

Mindra pause 

What am I feeling ?

Do I need to decide now ?

Give important decision enough time.

Chapter 10  Become the person behind the question. 

The way you think shapes the way you learn. If you believe you already know everything, curiousity become smaller, if you're willing to say. Maybe there is more to this, you leaves room for discovery. You don't have to accept every opinion, you don't have to doubt everything, you can be curious and careful, open minded an thoughtful, confident and willing to learn, the balance is powerful. The goal isn't to have an unswer for everything. Sometimes the better achievements is knowing how to ask the right question

The mindra thinking code 

I will pause before jumping to conclusions 

I will separate fact Frome assumption 

I will ask questions 

I will listen to different perspective 

I will check important information 

I will admit when I don't know something 

I will change my mind when strong evidence teaches me something new 

I will give important decision enough time 

I will stay curious 

And I will remember 

The way I see someone isn't always the only way to see it 

Your mindra perspective reset 

Look 

What is actually happening ?

Check 

What an I assuming 

Quetion

What information am I missing ?

See 

How might someone else understand this 

Think 

What is the most reasonable conclusion ?

Final 

The world is full of things you haven't notice yet, questions you haven't asked, ideas you haven't considered, perspective you haven't heard. You don't need to agree with everyone, you don't need to believe everything, you simply need to remain curious enough to look again , sometimes changing your view doesn't change the world, it changes what you can see in it .

Mindra 

Look deeper. Ask better, think wiser.  Take care 👊